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Further Reading: Emotional Regulation – A User’s Guide

Emotional regulation is the process of reorganizing, labeling and adjusting emotions. The term emotion regulation is used to describe one component of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy — which combines cognitive and behavioral therapy, incorporating techniques from various traditions and was developed to treat certain types of mental health issues. Learning how to self-regulate emotions is an important part of a child’s development, and as we know from experience and life-long quest.

The techniques formalized in DBT can be used by all of us to identify and change negative patterns of thinking. Basically, it provides ways to help get “unstuck” and shift how you think and act in a more positive direction. In addition to emotional regulation, the other components of the therapy are strengthening tolerance for distress and negative emotions, teaching mindfulness strategies and improving interpersonal effectiveness. To learn more about DBT specifically, click here.

What is Emotional Regulation

Emotional Regulation

Letting go and Thinking Differently: Change the way you think

4 Articles from Psychology Today on changing the way you think

7 Little Habits That Can Change Your Life, and How to Form Them

Tricks to Becoming A More Positive Thinker

Cheat Sheet for Finding Your Funny Bone: 15 Funniest Websites for the Best Humor on the Web


TedTalk: The Importance of Self-Care

Self-care is Active Participation in Enhancing the Quality of Your Health


Controlling Anger

10 Steps for Controlling Anger

Strategies for Controlling Anger


Active Listening and Better Communication

Click here to take a deeper dive into this topic with additional readings focusing on developmentally appropriate ways of using active listening skills in your family

The Skill of Listening

7 Ways to Reinforce Active Listening at Home



Click here to read two related COPETalk: Mindful Parenting: Getting Your Emotions Under Control and Can Meditation Positively Impact Your teenager? It Absolutely Can! There are additional links at the end of each article.

Benefits of Mindfulness

Free Mindfulness Apps

Free web-based guided meditations

All It Takes Is 10 Mindful Minutes

Breathe. Exhale. Repeat: The Benefits of Controlled Breathing

Bill Murray’s Surprising Wish + Meditation

Further Reading: A Deeper Dive


Emotional Regulation

The 5-Point Scale and Emotional Regulation

More information about the cycle of thoughts, behavior and feelings


Letting go and Thinking Differently: Change the way you think

Forget Positive Thinking: This Is How to Actually Change Negative Thoughts For Success

Cognitive Restructuring: Reducing Stress by Changing Your Thinking

PTSD COACH ONLINE: Changing negative thinking patterns

Critical Thinking in Everyday Life: 9 Strategies

Active Listening

Active Listening with Toddlers and Pre-schoolers

Active Listening: How to Master the Skill That Will Make You a More Effective Parent

Preventing Teen Drug Use: How to Talk with Your Teen

Talking and Active Listening with Your Teen